The mind has a tendency to drift off, but when you practice becoming aware of your surroundings you are automatically present with yourself and what's around you. This practice of grounding yourself in the actual moment of where you are can be used anywhere. In your office, sitting in traffic, or doing the dishes.
We live in an "insta" world where saving time has become more of a survival tactic than a way to improve our lives. What do we do with the time we save? We spend it on our phones, at the work desk, and in traffic. No matter how hard we try to take short cuts to make up for lost time it seems like we don't really get any more done or get anywhere faster.
No matter where you find yourself in the divorce process, you’re going to have to face the end of the year. The holidays are challenging, but an often overlooked opportunity for closure is being presented as well. Setting intentions for the new year is a great practice, but it’s essential to put closure on the previous year first.
Being a people pleaser is a habit. It’s one of the “skills” you learned growing up, and it’s often a way to avoid feelings you simply don’t want to deal with. Sometimes guilt digests easier than experiencing the anger and disappointment from another person. Putting other peoples needs before your own begins innocently, but over time it can become a more chronic issue leaving you feeling exhausted, depleted, and even a bit co-dependent.
Over the course of your life you have taken on certain beliefs about yourself and the world. These beliefs become hard truths even without evidence to support them. They become spells because they’ve been cast without you even knowing, and you lack the awareness you need to break them. Read on to learn about the three most common spells, and how to get out from under them.
There is an endless amount of advice for you out there about how to best traverse the divorce process, but very little about what you shouldn't do. The divorce process can be stressful, risky and very confusing so it's essential to become educated around the things that can make your situation worse.
There's a difference between not feeling like you’re enough, and wanting to be better than you are. Feeling less than is an issue of self-value and focuses on deficits; wanting to be better is an act of desire and focuses on improvement.
What do you want to know, but are afraid to ask? What do you look at, but are afraid to see? What do you believe, but are afraid to say? We're incongruent in so many aspects of our lives, and constantly in conflict around what to bring into the light, and what to leave in the dark.
As a therapist I have spent a decade talking about digestion metaphorically. Telling clients that it's important to "digest" their experience or emotions has always felt like a great way to deliver the message of what psychological health looks like. It's been a metaphor that works well in helping people to slow down, and a way to let things settle inside before reacting or making big decisions.
The word compassion has different meaning for different people. Some associate it with the Buddha or personal growth, others relate it to something they feel for the less fortunate, and some don't really think about it at all. Compassion is under utilized by most of society, yet the impact of compassion when practiced is profound.
Shifting your relationship with your Ex from being a married couple to a divorcing couple might be one of the single most challenging transitions you will ever have to make. Moving from a relationship that is founded on limitless love and oneness, to a dynamic of division and autonomy often feels really unnatural and even counter-intuitive.
There is nothing more exhausting and painful than being in a relationship that feels wrong. While some relationships may seem obviously bad, commitment and love are very powerful forces that can make leaving someone a very confusing issue.
When it comes to abrupt endings related to love, the experience is very similar to being the victim of a blunt force trauma. The symptoms are the same, and your functioning drops to the level of someone who needs to be hospitalized and treated for injuries.
What many people don't realize is that the relationships we sustain in our lives are the key to a fulfilling and satisfying existence. We are wired to be relational beings, and to connect with others.
Have you ever said or done something only to later wonder why or wish you hadn't? If you have a knee-jerk reaction to life, or speak before you think, you might want to begin a practice of setting intentions.
While both partners usually contribute to most issues in a marriage, when a man cheats he is making a conscious choice to do it. There is always some point in time where that man makes a decision to betray the trust and commitment in relationship. This fact cannot be denied nor rationalized away.
The pain of divorce is often unbearable. The experience can be so awful that you wonder whether it would have been easier to stay married or even to be dealing with some other horrific life event like death.
Love is a two way street. It is meant to be given, and received. How you give love is probably very much connected to how you long to receive it, but the exchange is not always so linear. Everyone defines and receives love differently.
the idea of entitlement is not always so black and white. It's not like we are either entitled or not entitled, or that we can simply say that we are all entitled to whatever we want. I have found this to be potentially dangerous because it ultimately leads to high levels of disappointment and frustration.
I used to live in a city that hosts over 3.8 million people. This kind of population forces you to plan. If you don't plan you're likely to be turned away, which for me has often turned into a rejection-shame spiral, and feeling stupid for not being more prepared.
